Don't let MS hold you back from dating

Relationships with MS

Going on dates

There are a lot of different ways to meet people nowadays. Things like common interest groups, social sites, and dating sites can help you meet people with similar interests. Online dating may be a way to get to know someone and feel comfortable with them before meeting in person. However, you should always be careful, especially when giving out personal information like your phone number and address. Remember, you should only do what makes you feel comfortable.

During the date

Meeting someone for the first time can bring about some jitters with or without a disease. Try to relax and enjoy the moment as best you can. Proper planning may be needed, but it can go a long way toward making sure you have a great time.

In my case, I may have to limit my beverages so I'm not running back and forth to the bathroom. If there's food involved, I may order something that doesn’t involve too much work with my hands. I also prefer time-sensitive first dates, like an afternoon movie, since my fatigue often kicks in during the evening. By planning beforehand, I am able to take away some of the constant thinking about MS and put the focus on the date. This way, I can hear that story of him back in high school without interrupting to address my symptoms.

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Talking about your MS

There is no right or wrong time to talk about your MS. It's when you feel comfortable and when you are ready to talk about personal things with your partner. After all, do you talk about your credit score on a first date? You will know when that time comes. Today, I find it easier to talk about it, especially since I've educated myself on what living with MS means for me. Educating yourself about MS can build confidence, and that can make having the conversation much easier.

When thinking about dating, keep in mind:

  • Dating is all about taking a chance on getting to know someone. Everyone has something that he or she fears the other person may not like. But that should not stop you from dating if you are ready to date—especially in the beginning
  • Before worrying about whether he or she will like you with MS, focus on the person you’re on a date with. If you like that person, it may be easier to have that conversation
  • Not every bad date will be because of MS. In fact, it may just be chemistry or something you may not be comfortable with about the other person. After all, dating should be about getting to know each other and not just trying to explain your MS the whole time. MS is just another part of you. It doesn't have to define you
  • Just as MS is unpredictable, the same can be said about life in general. Who knows what tomorrow may bring? But it’s important to live for today and put yourself out there. You are an amazing person and you deserve someone special too


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From Biogen