SHE TALKS MS

A video series featuring women living with MS and neurologists who discuss the
sensitive but important topics that women face.

Success

This has been added to your Favorites

Discussing sex with your partner

For Ann Marie J., having an open and honest dialogue with her partner is key to intimacy. Hear from her and Dr. Kaplan as they discuss ways to enjoy sex while being mindful of MS.

Transcript

Sexual Health 
DISCUSSING SEX WITH YOUR PARTNER

Dr. Wanda Castro: Welcome to She Talks MS. My name is Wanda Castro and I’ll be your host. I work with Biogen, and today we will be talking about sexual health. Ann Marie, what is it like to open up to your sexual partner about MS?

Ann Marie J.: I am very open. I believe that it’s important that the more open I am, the more satisfying the experience can be. The last thing I want is to be in the moment, where I should be thinking about him, and thinking about us, but instead I'm thinking about oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, oh my god. You know, the oh my gods should be more directed towards another kind of oh my god—Those days when I'm not feeling up to it, whether it be my fatigue, whether it be that my tingling, and my sensations are a little off, it's important that I let him know. Because in that, we’re then able to manage and try something else, or maybe a little later. It doesn't have to be right then, right now. That’s one of the things that I've learned, that it’s okay. Sometimes, let’s wait it out.

Wanda: How does that make you feel, having to make those decisions?

Ann Marie J.: It empowers me. It makes me feel like I’m in control again. MS is going to do what it’s going to do but at least in this moment, I can be in control, so that I can feel good, so that we can feel good.

Dr. Kaplan: That’s so important. So many of my patients say that they just feel like MS is out of their control, that’s when you have to find those moments where you can take control.

Wanda: Did you look for any help? Did you talk with your healthcare provider about this issue?

Ann Marie J.: I am all about you got to talk to someone, started with my doctor first. And also, though, in conjunction, I was reaching out to support groups. You know, it’s a lot of information that’s out there in the support groups. But sometimes, you know, it’s not about the information, it’s just more so, simple support to know that you’re not alone, you know, that there are others that are going through this, and then getting tips sometimes on how to deal with what you’re going through.

Dr. Kaplan: But I commend you so much for talking about this.

Wanda: What are other things have you found that work with you and your partner that allow you to enjoy sex while being mindful of your MS symptoms?

Ann Marie J.: It’s important to take the time to really explore each other’s body. Touching, kissing, and anything and everything else in between. You know, explore those places that at first hand, you probably overlooked. You’d be surprised, forehead kisses are quite nice. Back of your neck, very nice. Be open. I think if anything just with sexuality and just sex in general, I think it’s important for you to have an open conversation and dialogue, and that’s with or without MS. So, with that being said, talk to your partner. Talk to them in terms of how MS affects certain things, and let’s try something new, sometimes.

Dr. Kaplan: You know, so many people with MS are so familiar with their own body in a way that maybe people without MS aren’t. But transforming that and making that helpful in the bedroom, is really an amazing thing, and a wonderful thing.

Ann Marie J.: And sometimes, it could be a lot of fun in that journey.

Wanda: Well, Ann Marie, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. We know that’s difficult to open up about these topics. We hope that this inspires someone that is watching us to have these conversations and open up with their healthcare providers.

Ann Marie J.: Thank you.

Everyone’s experience with multiple sclerosis (MS) is different. Your healthcare provider should always be your primary source of information. The people in this video are paid spokespeople for Biogen.

MORE FROM SHE TALKS MS

ALL VIDEOS

FAMILY PLANNING & PREGNANCY

SHE TALKS MS

Considering pregnancy

From Biogen

SHE TALKS MS

Being pregnant with MS

From Biogen

She Talks MS

What to expect postpartum

From Biogen

SHE TALKS MS

Considering pregnancy

From Biogen

SHE TALKS MS

Being pregnant with MS

From Biogen

She Talks MS

What to expect postpartum

From Biogen

MENTAL & EMOTIONAL WELLNESS

SHE TALKS MS

Emotional impact after MS diagnosis

From Biogen

SHE TALKS MS

Our roles as women & living with MS

From Biogen

She Talks MS

Getting emotional & cognitive support

From Biogen

SHE TALKS MS

Emotional impact after MS diagnosis

From Biogen

SHE TALKS MS

Our roles as women & living with MS

From Biogen

She Talks MS

Getting emotional & cognitive support

From Biogen

SEXUAL HEALTH

She Talks MS

How MS may impact sex

From Biogen

She Talks MS

Discussing sex with your healthcare provider

From Biogen

She Talks MS

How MS may impact sex

From Biogen

She Talks MS

Discussing sex with your healthcare provider

From Biogen

BOWEL & BLADDER FUNCTION

She Talks MS

Bathroom-related MS symptoms

From Biogen

She Talks MS

Urination tips & tools

From Biogen

She Talks MS

Bathroom concerns: Discussing with your healthcare provider

From Biogen

She Talks MS

Bathroom-related MS symptoms

From Biogen

She Talks MS

Urination tips & tools

From Biogen

She Talks MS

Bathroom concerns: Discussing with your healthcare provider

From Biogen

SIGN UP AND GET A COMPLIMENTARY RECIPE BOOK

Sign up today for Above MS emails and get a book with healthy recipes mailed to your home.

Enter a valid email address

YOU MAY ALSO LIKE

Mental & emotional health

Maintaining mindfulness at work

From Biogen

Exercise & fitness

6 ways to help stay active

From Herb L.

JOIN ABOVE MS

Sign up to stay connected with others in the MS community

From Biogen

ABY APP | BY ABOVE MS

Download Aby, an MS app, to support your unique needs

From Biogen

MS Education

MS among African Americans

From Dr. Williams

Exercise & fitness

4 tips on aging with MS

From Herb L.

Recipes

Almond energy bites

Snack

From Jessica T.

DIAGNOSIS

An MS diagnosis at 25

From Chelsey B.

Recipes

Avocado toast

Breakfast

From Jessica C.

Recipes

Baked falafel

Entrée

From Jessica C.

Recipes

Banana oatmeal breakfast cookies

Breakfast

From Beth P.

Recipes

Beet & red lentil hummus

Snack

From Jessica C.

About MS Treatment

Being your own best advocate

From Biogen

Mental & emotional health

The benefits of living with a pet

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: Bladder & bowel dysfunction

From Biogen

Recipes

Buffalo cauliflower

Snack

From Gina F.

Mental & emotional health

Celebrating life with MS

From Stephanie G.

MS Education

Clinical trials 101

From Biogen

MS Education

Clinically isolated syndrome (CIS)

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

The most common MS symptoms

From Biogen

Your MS Healthcare Team

Connecting your team

From Biogen

YOUR MS HEALTHCARE TEAM

Find out if telehealth is right for your next MS appointment

From Biogen

Your MS Healthcare Team

Counseling as an option

From Jessica T.

DIAGNOSIS

Dealing with your MS diagnosis

From Shari S.

Mental & emotional health

Dealing with memory problems

From Biogen

DIAGNOSIS

Diagnosing MS: What you may expect

From Dr. Coyle

Diet & nutrition

Diets & supplements to consider

From Dr. Williams

Diet & nutrition

Dining out made easier

From Biogen

Exercise & fitness

Discover potential benefits of yoga

From Biogen

About MS Treatment

How disease modifying treatments may help

From Dr. Bowen

DIAGNOSIS

Encouragement if you’re newly diagnosed

From Biogen

Mental & emotional health

Finding your silver lining

From Biogen

About MS Treatment

Finding the right treatment

From Biogen

Recipes

Fruit crisp pie

Dessert

From Gina F.

MS EDUCATION

Watch this video series to learn from MS expert Dr. Weigel

From Biogen

About MS Treatment

Goal of DMTs

From Biogen

Recipes

Grandma’s date treats

Snack

From Stephanie G.

Mental & emotional health

Using positivity to overcome stigma

From Robyn F.

About MS Treatment

Health insurance & MS

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Fill out this survey before your next appointment

From Biogen

Recipes

Homemade hummus

Snack

From Kellie T.

MS Symptoms

Honestly MS: Feeling alone with MS

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Honestly MS: Opening up about difficult topics

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Honestly MS: Redefining intimacy with your partner

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Honestly MS: Taking on bladder & bowel issues

From Biogen

Mental & emotional health

How humor may be beneficial

From Paul P.

MS Education

How MS may affect the body

From Biogen

MS Education

The immune system & MS

From Biogen

Mental & emotional health

How meditation may help

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: Emotional changes

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: Vision problems

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: Walking difficulties

From Biogen

Mental & emotional health

How spiritual wellness may help

From Mary Kay F.

Mental & emotional health

Staying motivated with MS

From Charlie “Justice” B.

About MS Treatment

I wish I knew

From our Expert Contributors

About MS Treatment

The importance of treating early

From Biogen

Recipes

Jersey’s bruschetta

Snack

From Stephanie G.

JOIN LIVE MS EVENTS & WEBINARS

Learn about MS and connect with others. Check out in-person and online events....more

From Biogen

Recipes

Kale chips

Snack

From Gina F.

Mental & emotional health

8 ways to keep your brain engaged

From Biogen

Your MS Healthcare Team

Key members of your support team

From Biogen

Mental & emotional health

More than MS

From Biogen

Mental & emotional health

Living a fulfilling life with MS

From Charlie “Justice” B.

MS ORGANIZATIONS

Connect with MS organizations for more support

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: Types of MS pain

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: Cognitive dysfunction

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: Fatigue

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: Heat sensitivity

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: Spasticity

From Biogen

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: Speech difficulties

From Biogen

DIAGNOSIS

How MS is diagnosed

From Biogen

Mental & emotional health

Maintaining a positive outlook

From Biogen

Your MS Healthcare Team

Making the most of your MS doctor appointments

From Dr. Weigel

Diet & nutrition

Making changes to your diet

From Biogen

Your MS Healthcare Team

Making the most of visits with your healthcare team

From Robyn F.

Diet & nutrition

Meal planning for the week ahead

From Judy B.

MEET THE CONTRIBUTORS

Get to know insiders who share their experiences

From Biogen

MS EDUCATION

Monitoring disease activity

From Biogen

Diet & nutrition

Navigating grocery stores

From Judy B.

Your MS Healthcare Team

Occupational therapy & MS

From Dr. Kalina

Recipes

One-pot Greek manestra

Entrée

From Cat S.

Recipes

Overnight oats

Breakfast

From Judy B.

Recipes

Pasta puttanesca

Entrée

From Judy B.

Your MS Healthcare Team

Physical therapy & MS

From Nancy D.

Exercise & fitness

Pilates for beginners

From Jessica T.

Recipes

Power smoothie

Breakfast

From Stephanie G.

Recipes

Power-up oatmeal

Breakfast

From Gina F.

MS Education

Pregnancy & MS

From Jessica T.

Your MS Healthcare Team

Psychological support

From Biogen

Recipes

Ratatouille

Entrée

From Cat S.

Diet & nutrition

Reading nutrition labels

From Jessica C.

ABOUT MS TREATMENT

Balancing the benefits and risks of treating MS

From Dr. West

MS Education

Science behind making an MS drug

From Dr. Mi

Exercise & fitness

Zumba exercises with Nancy D.

From Nancy D.

Recipes

Shrimp pasta with a twist

Entrée

From Gina F.

ABOVE MS PROGRAM

Sign up today

From Biogen

Recipes

Slow-cooker dill salmon

Entrée

From Stephanie G.

Exercise & fitness

Stationary cardio with Nancy D.

From Nancy D.

Diet & nutrition

Stocking a healthy kitchen

From Biogen

Exercise & fitness

Stretching exercises with Nancy D.

From Nancy D.

Brain Games

Sudoku

From Biogen

Recipes

Sweet potato nachos

Snack

From Judy B.

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: Numbness & tingling

From Biogen

Recipes

Deconstructed taco salad

Entrée

From Jessica C.

About MS Treatment

Taking your MS medication

From Jessica T.

Mental & emotional health

Taking charge of my MS

From April M.

MS Symptoms

Symptom Series: How to talk about MS pain 

From Biogen

Mental & emotional health

Tips if you’re dealing with memory issues

From Paul P.

Exercise & fitness

Tips for aquatic exercise

From Sheryl S.

MS Symptoms

Tips for common MS symptoms

From Biogen

YOUR MS HEALTHCARE TEAM

How I found the right doctor for me

From Chelsey B.

About MS Treatment

Tips for staying on track

From Biogen

Your MS Healthcare Team

Tips for talking with your doctor

From Biogen

Recipes

Tofu steaks & vegetables

Entrée

From Cat S.

Mental & emotional health

Tools & games for your mind

From Biogen

MS Education

Types of MS

From Biogen

About MS Treatment

Types of MS treatments

From Dr. Tufeld

DIAGNOSIS

Understanding MRIs

From Biogen

MS Education

Download the Understanding Multiple Sclerosis brochure to learn more

From Biogen

MS Education

Understanding relapsing MS

From Biogen

Exercise & fitness

Upper-body workouts for MS

From Biogen

Recipes

Vegan banana ice cream

Dessert

From Jessica C.

Mental & emotional health

360° approach to wellness

From Beth P.

MS Education

Understanding lesions

From Biogen

About MS Treatment

What you may expect from treatment

From Dr. Coyle

Recipes

White chicken chili

Entrée

From Jessica T.

MS EDUCATION

Who gets MS?

From Biogen

Mental & emotional health

Why mental exercise may help

From Biogen

Your MS Healthcare Team

Working with your MS nurse

From Dr. Weigel

Mental & emotional health

You are beautiful

From Charlie “Justice” B.

Brain Games

Crossword

From Biogen

Brain Games

Flipout

From Biogen